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Name: Spidey Country: United States State: Pennsylvania Metro: Philadelphia Gender: Male
Interests: WRITING WRITING AND MORE WRITING. Also: friends, Philadelphia, Sports, sticking it to the man, kissing in the rain, giving out good advice, giving someone a high five, little kids hugging your legs, and making memories. Expertise: Fixing things. Any kind of things. Educating, writing, advice, freestyling, reading out loud, being nice, sports Occupation: Computer related, unless you w Industry: I'm in da streets.
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| I know what you're thinking. "Oh, he spelled relationships wrong...the editing on this article is terrible. Why wouldn't he just use spell check?
Well first off - spell check doesn't work in the subject field, Mr. Scripps Howard. Secondly, I meant to spell it that way. So find your attention span (put down that iPhone!) and read on. Did
you ever know someone who finds it nearly impossible to be single?
Everyone generally has a friend who's a serial monogamist. In fact,
think about ten friends you have...if you can't think of one, it might
be you. Serial monogamy can be a paralyzing thing. When a
man needs needs a relationship with a woman to feel validated or
motivated, it typically doesn't reflect well on him. Not
that being in a serious or long-term relationship is bad, but when a
guy goes from one involved relationship to the next, it can throw his
life off course, as well as the women he's relating to. Often
times, these guys end up jumping into short-sighted engagements or
marriages without getting areal idea of what they're getting into. They
pick and choose women without much thought; more aware of their
feelings, her looks, or how much fun she is, neglecting to look at her
"long-term" potential.
Hence - "relationshopping." Imagine
them going to pick up a novelty t-shirt that says "Do you smell
what Barack is cooking" rather than purchasing say, a house. This is
how they tend to decide on who to date. So how do we diagnose a relationshopper/serial monogamist? Generally: A.
Have very short periods of time between relationships. After about
sixty days they start sounding as miserable as a ten year-old who keeps
opening boxes of clothes at Christmas. At ninety days, they've joined
three dating websites, called four exes to see if they were still with
their boyfriends, and are reading articles from every magazine from Best Life to Tiger Beat for relationship advice. B.
You've heard them say things like this more than a few times: "She's
the one, I know it", "I'm totally in love with her", "We're a perfect
match." Typically, they tend to say this after just a couple of dates.
C.
Often setting up new relationships before their current one ends. You
may see them communicating with a new girl, either secretly or
publicly. Come to think of it, I think that's what the "poke" on
Facebook is for, actually. "I'm still with my girlfriend, but I've got
my eye on you." D. Until they get broken up with, or
until they get the stones to break up with them - they're often
easily manipulated. The thought of losing the relationship tends to
blind them to the reality of the situations they're actually in.
Remember that friend you had with the girlfriend everyone hated? You know the guy. Sometimes these guys even get married to that girl, just to have someone. Well,
if you or anyone you know fits this scenario - don't despair. I've
got the prescription, so grab a glass of water and choke down these
pills of wisdom:
Don't see being single as just being alone. See it as your time to be free. Savor it. Contrary
to what some may believe, singleness is not a curse - it should
be relished like the last chicken nugget in the box. Being on your own
is the best time to try new things, work on your career, and explore
all that life has to offer.
Once you
get into along-term relationship, they will require your
time, attention, and money. While it'll all be worth it for the right
girl - make sure you don't miss out on the things you always wanted to
do.
Use the time to figure out who you are. Ever hear anyone use the phrase "I had to find myself"?
I
know...it sounds like trite psychobabble for the most part, but for
many men and women, it's something they don't always figure out. Think
about it: for the first 12-13 years of your life your parents or family
mostly determine who you are, then in your teenage years, you start to
become more influenced by your peers, then college, where everyone
starts to reinvent themselves, but even there you can be driven by what
your friends, professors, or roomates think and do.
That's
about an average of 22 years of everyone else having a major
influence on how you live your life. If you're only 24, have you really
figured out what it is YOU want from life?
Do
you REALLY like camping? How about the beach? Maybe you want to try
being a vegetarian, or perhaps you never realized how much you hate
going to work in a tie. When you're in a serious relationship, you
won't have the same ability to change your mind or your circumstances,
because someone else's future is now tied to yours. To borrow a phrase from 90's hip hop: "You gotta get with knowledge of self." Lastly, for men: Be a MAN!Like I even had to say this one. Some things you just can't always do when you're in a relationship. So do them now. - Play video games all night. Heck, dedicate a weekend to leveling up your character.
- Eat whatever you want. Three cheesesteaks in one day? Don't mind if I do.
- Ogle
as many women as you like. Want to rewind that one scene in
Transformers with Megan Fox leaning inside the open hood? The only thing
stopping you is those dying batteries in your DVD remote.
- Go
to loud concerts and/or rowdy sporting events. Some guys manage
to find women who actually enjoy these. Don't hold your breath,
though.You're more likely to find a fat person on a Bally's commercial.
- Watch
whatever movies you want. It's invitable at some point you'regoing
to be stuck watching some horrible rom-com or something created by
Nicholas Sparks...so go nuts now and watch as many "Die Hards",
"300's", or any film starring Bruce Lee, Chuck Norris, or Jackie Chan.
Got all that?
Good. I'm out like big screen TV's on Black Friday.
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|  Happy Thanksgiving from the bottom of my heart, xanga. ...and happy birthday to me...and Dan. | | |
| If you've read my blogs for a bit, you probably know that I'm a big kid. A child of the 80's and PROUD of it.
I saw the original Transformers: The Movie...in 1986. Then bought the VHS tape and watched it till I memorized it.
...and it was awesome. It didn't even need Megan Fox.
What else was awesome was being part of the original Nintendo generation. You name the game, I probably played it and beat it.
One of my favorite parts of old-school gaming?
CHEAT CODES.
Almost every game it seemed like then had some sort of cool little easter egg that the programmers built in. When you got your fresh issue of Nintendo Power...you skipped RIGHT to the section with the codes. The internet was still a glimmer in Al Gore's eye, so obviously there wasn't anywhere else you could get codes...at least until other video game magazines started becoming more published.
If you were an 80's kid, this was your manual for LIFE.While I could wax nostalgic on and on about the wonder that was 8-Bit Nintendo, I'm gonna put that on a memory card and save it. I'm here to drop some knowledge like a teacher with small hands. I'm going to teach you girls how to push your man's buttons...yup. GIRLFRIEND CHEAT CODES. Instead of that hard level grind from "friend" to "girlfriend" and "girlfriend" to "wifey", I'm gonna give you these secret hints...cheat codes, for our purposes here - to make this a quicker transition. So he's saying to himself: "I DO LIKE IT AND I'M GONNA PUT A RING ON IT." Disclaimer: These cheat codes are highly effective - so make absolutely sure that he is THE ONE you want to marry. I will not be held responsible for your marriage to a lazy bum who can't figure out how to defrost chicken in the microwave, nor will I appear in divorce court and testify to ANYTHING. Cheat Code #1: Hospitality hotness
Hospitality is a dying art. Anyone can watch Rachel Ray or Martha Stewart and know HOW to make a 18-layer hoagie dip, or thrice-marinated wings - but how many women left actually invite people over to entertain for the purpose of building friendships and being hospitable?
When a guy can invite his friends over, and his lady treats them well - that is major bonus points. Maintaining friendships is important to a guy, and it means a lot when his lady shows her care by taking part in his socializing with friends.
For example: if a guy likes to have poker/video game/football game nights with his boys - instead of just telling him "go do whatever it is you men do" - Suggest that you host it at your place, and then offer to set up the food/snacks.
When he and his friends see the effort you put into making sure they're happy, it'll put you that much closer to winning your own personal version of "The Bachelor."
Cheat Code #2: Special Delivery
You've seen Clerks, right? I believe Silent Bob's only line is: "Man, there are a million fine girls in the world, but not all of them bring you lasagna at work. Most of them just cheat on you. "
Women who will cook for you are great, but a woman who will cook for you and bring it to your place of work? That's downright amazing. Even if you like your job, there is nothing quite like seeing the object of your affections show up with delicious homemade vittles. It makes your whole week - and makes your co-workers envious. It's the male equivalent of sending her flowers to her desk.
Cheat Code #3: Recovery Boost
Guys are not like computers, they're more like calculators. That is, one function at a time. Not that they can't solve problems effectively, but most of them prefer not to handle more than one at a time. For this cheat, all you need to know is that when a guy is off of work, he needs a bit of time to recover from solving those problem before he'll feel comfortable helping you tackle yours.
That one-two hour window of him returning from home is the time a man is most craving relaxation. We want to be the person you can count on the most, but after just solving the world's problems at work, it can be hard for us to focus on your issue with your gassy co-worker who is telling everyone else at work "whoever smelt it, dealt it."
I bet most fights occur during that time directly after work, so give guys a little time to chill post-work before you have important "talks" with him. If you can, try and talk to another girlfriend about it first. It'll do wonders for your relationship.
Cheat Code #4 Calvin and Hobbies
Guys love their hobbies. Not as much as they love their girlfriends(hopefully), but they do love their hobbies. Whether it's car building, beer brewing, watching sports, vampire hunting, playing video games, or rollerblading.
Just kidding, no guys love rollerblading.
To that end, what's better than doing your hobby with a person you can make out with after? Or during!?!?!
I can't think of anything right now.
Once you find out what your man likes, give it a try. If you absolutely hate it, then try something else he likes - eventually you should be able to find a hobby that you both can enjoy.
Cheat Code #5 Endorse and Encourage
When you're with someone you love, ultimately they make you want to be a better person. But change and improvement isn't like Mario finding a mushroom and BAM! now he's Super Mario. It takes time to grow. While he's doing his metamorphasis from Clark Kent to Superman, he's going to need plenty of encouragement and support. Constructive criticism is helpful, but it doesn't equate to a good dose of genuine encouragement. If he has dreams, support them - and if he's having a rough time with things, let him know that you still think he's awesome.
There's a reason that sports teams with great fan bases usually perform well.
Think you've got all that? Well then...
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| Does anyone remember that game?
Classic. So I happened to notice I've garnered a truckload of new subscribers since I made my comeback a few months ago.
Always cool.
But like any new thing you happen to pick up on, often you have to go back and read or watch the earlier episodes to fully appreciate it, ya know? You can't just start watch Heroes in Season 3 without going back to find out who's who's, what's what, and how's how?
How now? Why ask why? ...Try Bud Dry?
Best lawn piece ever?
Anyhoo, as a public service...cause I'm stand-up guy - I'm gonna hook you up with some links to my greatest "hits" so to speak. Besides, who likes searching through blogs? That's much too much like playing Minesweeper...
"This is so LAME...FML." ...and who wants to do that?
Oh, and don't listen to anyone who says I'm a sit-down guy. That's like, rare. I'm stand-up, I promise.
First off, my relationship-centric blogs; what I believe to be my for-tay. Ahem, forté.
Hopefully you, or someone else may benefit from this rousing trip to advicetown.
The Happy Boyfriend Checklist - We're not that complicated...but here's what we do like...
The Happy Girlfriend Checklist (featured) - Demystifying women, one blog at a time.
Relationship Sabotage! - Want to ruin your relationship? Here's how. (featuring Ninjas!)
Classic Breakup Lines - It's not you, really.
Date Better, part 1 - How to Up-date, if you will.
Adventures in Speed Dating - Part One , Part Two - Ever wondered what speed dating was really like? Read up.
The Seven Guys You'll Date - The usual suspects.
How to Correctly Apologize - Cause a lot of you are doing it wrong.
The Seven Girls You'll Meet (featured) - Which kind might you be?
How to Get a Date: Nerd Edition - (requested) Nerds sometimes need a little help...I'm your Hitch.
How to Get a Midnight Kiss on New Years (requested)- Don't ring in a new year without a smootch!
What's she doing with HIM? - I explain why some women date who they do. Ed. I can't remember if this was featured or not. I think it was.
Flirting 101 - An essential skill, in my opinion.
How to KEEP a guy in 10 days (featured) - Much more entertaining than a movie with Matthew McConaughey.
Pick up the pieces! - Get over that breakup already.
50 Worst Dates (featured) - Not actually fifty, but you get the point.
Real-ations - Part 1, Part 2 - Breaking down how relationships work.
The Game Killers - Don't try to meet the opposite sex with these people in tow.
How to drive a girl absolutely WILD (featured) - Little tips that make girls happy.
Avoid the FRIEND ZONE - Much less fun than Discovery Zone. (originally guest posted for Nick)
Dr. Fakenstein - Wanna know what makes guys "players"?
The Relationship Rules - You'll like this entry, especially if you like C.A.K.E.
The "F" Word - you know...I just wanna be "Friends". Here's how you tell 'em.
Posted Secrets - Things you might not know that girls and guys like.
Where To Meet a "Good Guy." - They're out there somewhere...
What to talk about on a first date - Cause no one wants to come off like a dork.
Things NEVER to say to a woman - Don't play with fire.
For those of you who need relationship advice like Kim Kardashian needs butt implants, check these other ones out...they're some of my favorites.
So You Wanna Be a Nerd? (featured) - One of my most popular posts ever. I may write an updated version soon.
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People...Pokemon Trainers (featured)
The Five Ninjas You Meet Who Send YOU to Heaven - Cause Ninjas are awesome, I mean ... come on.
LOL-ympics (featured) - My LOL take on the Bejing Olympics...also my most heavily trafficked post, including features on Capcom.com and Geekadelphia.com
Are You That...Guy? (featured) Girl? Christian? Couple? - Some popular, fun entries for you to check how you measure up.
Spidey's Guide on How to Survive High School
LOLXanga Part One : Part Two - If you like LOLcats, you might like these, featuring some popular(and some AWOL) xangans.
Welcome to the Jungle (Gym) - If you go to a gym on the regular at all, you might recognize these species.
Xangsta's Fo' Lyfe! (featured) - Life on the mean streets of Xanga is tough, join the gang.
Oh, and before I bounce outta here...I might as well tell you to follow me on Twitter...I mean, why would you want to miss out on updates like these?
@mrhygiene - This is NOT a pillowcase, this is a SHAM.
@mrhygiene - White guys in dreads should only be seen in movie roles as a bumbling sidekick or minion.
@mrhygiene - I never see tall guys work out. As a matter of fact, it seems the shorter you are, the more you lift...Compensating for height?
@mrhygiene - I just walked past neil patrick harris. I resisted the urge to call him barney or doogie and high five him
@mrhygiene - Is it weird that when i hear rock songs now i think to myself: "man, i bet that would be really hard on guitar hero."
@mrhygiene - I just saw two black news anchors do a fist bump. I love philadelphia.
What is you waiting for? Follow me @ twitter.com/mrhygiene
Alright party people, I'm outta here. Actual posts soon, I promise. I'm out like cheese at Steve Urkel's house.
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Editors note: While I never ask for recommends, a lot of those posts were written pre-recommend era, so if you see something you like, let someone know - ya dig? | | |
| Some women seem to think guys are complicated.
This is not exactly true, we just like a few things...done well. If a guy is coming off as "complicated", make sure you're - A: not dating twins without noticing B: he is taking his schizophrenia medication regularly or C: you're most likely reading between lines that don't exist.
Henceforth, this checklist has many points; but you really only need points A through E to keep him happy.
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| Encourge him to lead / be flexible |
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| Let him watch the game uninteruppted, or watch it together |
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| Massage his neck, shoulders, arms, and hands |
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**you know what I mean when I say "affectionate"
Like the last list, the frequency of some of these can be adjusted as well...I mean, almost all guys like to be fed as much as possible.
Alright Mathletes, break out that abacus and count up those brownies...
Score: 1-3 of A through E:
4-5 of A through E: 
A-E, and up to 10 points:
A-E; 11-20 points:  
A-E; 21+ points(!!):   
Guys, if you have any incarnation of a gold star girlfriend and have a job? You'd better wrap her up like Christmas presents, she's a keeper.
If she's two or three gold stars? I suggest you comment on this blog, then close this page and start browsing wedding ring websites. Seriously, that Entourage DVD box set, and new iPhone can wait. Start saving for a rock. A big one, she deserves it. No heart shaped diamonds though, I will punch you. Princess-cut is a decent fallback.
So ladies: What's YOUR score?
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